The Rise of Technology & the Demise of Development – Final Edition
Today is the final part of my series on the rise of technology and the demise of development and as Christmas is only days away I thought the most influential technological event, as far as the ‘development’ of society is concerned, was appropriate….
Social media has to be one of the biggest pitfalls of modern technology development. Yes, it is great for bringing families together that live miles apart or for free marketing (if you don’t pay for someone else to do it for you). However, it has also become the stage for bullying, for judgement and berating and sadly for image shaming to name but a few.
I watched with a mixture of awe and sadness as the Duchess of Cambridge stood on the steps of the Lindo Wing, hours after the birth of her children looking absolutely radiant. My sadness though was that she felt she had to look picture perfect within hours of giving birth, that maybe she had just wanted to sit and hold her baby instead of having to have her hair and make-up done and that every other new mum or mum about to give birth now probably felt pressure to do the same.
Instead of taking the time to care for themselves after what is, let’s face it, a traumatic event emotionally, psychologically and physically, there seems to be a challenge to post on social media, especially from celebrities, where they are within hours and days of giving birth, how ‘fabulous’ they look so soon after delivery and how ‘perfect’ their life is. However, reality is EVERY WOMAN is emotional, sleep deprived and is leaking from potentially every orifice – especially the boobs at some stage! Having a baby is not glamourous but it is something that can be beautiful.
Years ago we didn’t have these pressures and certainly didn’t have it thrust in our faces what the latest celebrity baby is wearing or doing. We also didn’t have such a high percentage of post-natal depression, post-natal suicide or mums not bonding with their babies. So you see, technology has a lot to answer for!
So, what can you do?
- Take time for you! First and fore most you are going to really struggle to give your baby everything they need if you are not taking care of you first. Let others do things for you, there’s no shame in accepting help, get plenty of rest where you can and sleep when your baby sleeps.
- Don’t judge yourself! Ignore what others may be posting about where they are and what they are doing. If just brushing your teeth or your hair is what you accomplish some days, it is an achievement. Adapting to motherhood is a challenge in itself – give yourself time to bond with your baby, and to just take care of you both. Besides, people only ever post the ‘good’ news that they want to show the world, they rarely post the bad or the reality!
- Don’t judge others! We never know what it is to walk in someone else’s shoes. You never know what is going on in someone’s life and how your words may cut much deeper than you could ever imagine. There may be a reason that a mother is not breastfeeding for example – so don’t shame her for ensuring her baby is FED, she will be feeling enough of her own guilt. The Babyopathy message is ‘Fed is Best!’
- Ignore the pressure! There is no ‘one size fits all’ when it comes to babies. Every baby is unique and there is no one routine that fits all so throw out those baby books that insist ‘it’s my way or your baby will not be normal’. You do what is right for you and your baby. The key is to have an arsenal of tips and tools to try until you find what is right for your baby.
- Let go of the guilt! Whatever happens in life we will always question ‘what if I had done it differently’. However, you will never know the answer to that question so stop beating yourself up over it. Make the choices that are right for you and your baby at that time. If something doesn’t work, try something else. If something isn’t quite the way you planned it, write a new plan. You cannot change the past so let the guilt go and just have a positive effect on the here and now and the future will take care of itself.
The continued rise of technology is inevitable and does have its positives however, the key to its success in our lives is to remember that we do not NEED it. Balance the risks of technology with the realities of life. Time away from technology or minimizing it’s use and instead spending time in nature should be our daily goal. After all, nature can provide everything we need; our food and nutrients, a source of exercise and physical development, a natural pain killer and healer and a source of natural toys and for our all-round development and well-being, you just have to use it!